I need help dropping my drinking, smoking and porn habits

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a man of 32 and have three self-sabotaging habits – drinking, smoking and watching pornography.

I can’t seem to stop any of them.


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I went to some Alcoholics Anonymous meetings but found it hard to open up about my drinking because I felt so embarrassed about the scrapes I’ve got into when drunk.

It would help if I had some support but most of my mates are drinkers like me.

They borrow money from me and never pay it back.

I don’t even have a girlfriend.

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The one friend I had who doesn’t drink seems to avoid me these days. We used to play football together.

I feel like a low-life.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re not a low-life but you’ve got into a mess with addiction.

The good news is, you want to stop. Find help with your drinking from We Are With You (wearewithyou.org.uk) which helps people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol.

My support packs Giving Up Smoking, and Internet Pornography Worry, will help too.

See meetup.com for ideas about hobbies or interests to move your focus away from the pub and into something better and healthier, where you will make new friends.

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