A PROFESSIONAL sex coach tells how women constantly ask why their man won't talk about sex – and she says it's not a good sign.
Answering the common question, sexologist Kristin says that when this happens it may be that your man is no longer all that into you.
Taking to get TikTok, the expert answers a user who asks: "My boyfriend hasn't been in the mood for a while. I've tried to arouse him but he's just never in the mood and it's getting worse. Any advice?"
Stating that everything in her video is for "educational purposes" Kristin lists the possible reasons for a man not being interested in sex with their partner.
"Well, darlin, my first inclination is that maybe he's just not that into you anymore, but let's say that he is still into you, and he is just having some…issues right now," says the coach.
Adding: "You are not responsible for his libido. You are not responsible for his arousal. You are unique sexual creatures, you have sex on your own and sometimes you have sex together."
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Kristin goes on to explain that if her boyfriend only has issues when they have sex as a couple, she needs to investigate further.
She explains: "If he is still having a perfectly fine solo sex life, and it's just your couple sex life that is suffering, I have some questions."
"Males tend to have a more spontaneous libido, whereas females tend to have a more reactive libido" added the sex coach.
Going on to clarify further, Kristin says that there could be a medical reason for her boyfriend not being in the mood.
"If he is not getting aroused spontaneously, then maybe there is actually something medical going on with him. It could be low testosterone, it could be a blood flow issue" she explained.
Adding: "Right now, the why is actually not important, why he is not aroused doesn't really matter, what does matter is, is this guy willing to talk with you about what's going on."
The sex coach explains that the most crucial thing is that her boyfriend is communicating with her, and is willing to find a resolution to the issue.
"Is he willing to go see a medical professional, is he willing to go talk to a therapist or a coach, does he see the difference in your sex life as an issue, or is he just ignoring it and brushing you off, getting defensive when you bring it up?" asked Kristin.
Adding: "Does he push you away when you're trying to bid for his attention, and for his physical affections."
Coach Kristin says that brushing you off are refusing to talk about it, is a massive red flag for the relationship.
"If he won't talk to you about this, there's not a lot of fixing it and unfortunately that may mean, you've gotta move on," she said.
"And find somebody who is willing to talk about their sex life with you" she added.
The post has been viewed over 55k times, and TikTok users have been quick to comment.
"Completely agree" commented one person.
Another added: "A lot of times in my experience they are cheating."
"I think we dismiss the emotional side for me. They've got it too" commented a third.
Also..read how one lesbian couple is always mistaken for a mother and daughter.
In other news…I moved city because my ex-husband had NINE kids behind my back.
Meanwhile…I’m pretty & it’s NOT a good thing, girls leave me out, they don’t like not being the most attractive person in the room.
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